Peggy Post: Advice for Peaceful Planning

I am back from two intense days at my very first Association of Bridal Consultants Annual Conference! It was inspiring and invigorating, and I am SO excited to take what I learned and make 2010 one heckuva fabulous year!

One of the highlights of the conference was keynote speaker and etiquette guru, Peggy Post, great granddaughter-in-law of Emily Post, THE original etiquette expert. Peggy now serves as the spokesperson for the Emily Post Institute.

Photo by Kurt Ackerman

   
She was literally 20 feet in front of me, how cool is that?!

Her topic focused on Peaceful Wedding Planning, and she really drove home a few key points (excuse me for the obvious paraphrasing below). You would think that much of this is common sense, but I’m sure we can all attest to the lack of good manners in the world these days! We’re all guilty of it too at times… and could use a reminder!

“
What is etiquette? Etiquette helps us figure out solutions to situations. It is more than table manners, it is what we do in life. Etiquette is simply how persons lives touch one another's.

Etiquette is about three main principles, and how we live the principles:

- Consideration
- Respect – interest in others as they are
- Honesty – sincere, truthful and tactful

Consider these ‘guidelines’, not ‘rules’, as they are fluid and ever-changing. ”

Peggy’s advice to handle wedding conflict:

“Compromise. Listen with an open mind and love every idea for 5 minutes as you allow others to voice their suggestions.” 

I really thought this was a great tip: love every idea for 5 minutes. Haven’t we all been in the situation where two people are at odds and one person immediately shoots down the others’ idea? This is especially pertinent in the world of wedding planning when say, the bride wants one thing, and her fiance/mother/father want another thing. This could potentially lead to WWIII in some situations. Instead, Peggy suggests,

- Stay Calm
- Listen
- Stick with the facts
- Don’t get personal!
- Propose a solution
- Be willing to negotiate

And on another note… YES, in this age of technology, a hand-written THANK YOU CARD is still pertinent! Don’t just email/Facebook/Twitter your Thank You!  Because Peggy said so :)

What a great speaker! My only regret was not bringing her book for her to sign afterwards!!

Married: John & Vida – June 27, 2009 {Pt 3}

The Reception

John and Vida’s reception was abound with details and surprises that I can’t wait to share with you! Vida was a very detail-oriented and hands-on bride, which just thrilled me to bits!

One of my very favorite elements of the entire wedding was this escort card table (it took forever to set up!) Check out the succulent TREE that Vida found, it’s just AMAZING!



Those little black and white vessels are mini rock vases that Vida purchased from Thailand which that we filled with green kermit mums.

One of my favorite ways of adding visual interest to a reception room is mixing round tables with long “feasting” tables, as they are called. It worked perfectly in this space!

Their cityscape monogram on the wall. Initially this was to be projected on the dance floor, but after conferring with the lighting technician, we made the last minute decision to put it on the wall for more dramatic effect. People were taking pictures in front of it all night!

Let me tell you a little secret: There was NO florist involved in any of the centerpieces! Vida pre-assembled these very Zen centerpiece trays beforehand (notice the shells!), and then on the wedding day we laid them out, along with the fresh orchid blooms, driftwood branches, more shells, monstera leaves, trailing rocks.

I love the choice of modern stemware!

I love the simplicity of this shot.

They had an abundant food spread, including:

1. Sushi station with maki rolls and nigiri, made on-site by a sushi chef!
2. Thai food station provided by Vida’s parents, who own The Thai Grill in Edgwater (it’s delish!)
3. Continental station with carved beef tenderloin and miso glazed salmon
4. Thai dessert station
5. Ice cream sundae bar!

You better believe their guests were happy (and impressed!)!!

Sushi was definitely THE most popular station, the line was long the entire time! I was thrilled to snag a few pieces, hehe :)

Vida’s gorgeous yellow diamond rings

The Thai dessert table – those little things that look like mini peppers and fruits are actually mung bean desserts!

The beautiful tradition of Thai fruit carving… so intricate!

No ordinary white, 3-tiered cake for J & V! Say hello to Monkey the pug, and yes, he is holding a shell in his mouth. This is the dog they eventually plan to get, and his/her name will be Monkey!

*ouch*

There were a number of wonderful toasts

They didn’t want a traditional slideshow, so they found a company in Singapore that made an animated version of their love story, and interwove photos into the mix. It was definitely a unique twist!



Instead of a first dance, they had a first song! John used to sing, so when he busted out his guitar, it seemed fitting… although the guests were surprised when Vida chimed in with a duet! What did they sing? A love balled wasn’t their style, so John re-wrote the lyrics to “So I married my dream girl” (aka the free credit report jingle!). LUV it.






Dance floor was packed, of course

Success!

John and Vida, we were so thrilled to help make your wedding day a fabulous and memorable celebration! Thanks for letting us be a part of it!

Photographer: SecondPrint Productions
Venue: EnVent
Ceremony Musicians: Opus Focus
DJ: DJ Jay
Florist (Personal Flowers only): Vale of Enna
Lighting/Draping: Chicago Lighting Design
Linens: Chaircovers by Sylwia
Continental Catering: Catering by Michaels
Sushi Station: Thalia Spice
Thai Station: The Thai Grill
Pug cake: Tipsycake
Fruit carvings: Bree’s Basket
Vida’s Makeup: Beautiful Yu
Equipment Rentals: Classic Party Rentals
Staffing: Service is Us

Married: John & Vida – June 27, 2009 {Pt 2}

The Ceremonies

So where were we? It was 3pm, John and Vida had just finished their photo session and arrived at the venue, Envent, to get ready for their Chinese Tea Ceremony. Vida is Thai/Chinese, so she paid homage to her Thai heritage by wearing a beautiful, traditional Thai silk dress. Tea was poured and they served it to their parents and relatives as a sign of respect. In return, they received blessings from their elders along with red envelopes filled with money and gold jewelry. For many Chinese who uphold traditional beliefs, this is when the actual marriage takes place, and you are not technically married until you partake in this particular tea ceremony.

{Note that the bride serves tea to the male elder and the groom serves to the female elder}

Then it was time for Vida to change back into her white wedding gown and get ready for the Western-style ceremony.

   

 
Their beautiful ceremony programs, notice their monogram subtly embossed in the bottom left hand corner.

Vida asked both of her parents to escort her down the aisle, one of my very favorite ways of honoring both parents who raised her.

 

 

Now I’d like to highlight a part of their ceremony that was truly unique. Vida and John opted not to have a traditional bridal party (too many friends, couldn’t decide who to include?!). So we brainstormed on how we could incorporate the special people in their lives. We played around with a few ideas, but ultimately came up with a Candle Lighting Ceremony. This is not your typical Unity Candle lighting!

First, both of their mothers came up and lit two taper candles (using a pre-lit votive) and then lit the large center candle which was in the shape of a lotus blossom.

Lighting the lotus blossom…

Then the mothers handed the tapers to two of John and Vida’s friends who then lit the next pillar candles.

And then they handed the tapers off to the next pair of friends…



Who then did the same…

And the end result was a gorgeous candle-lit tablescape representing their family and friends. Meaningful and perfect!

 
John and Vida wrote their own vows, which I always highly recommend! Their vows were both touching and brought many of the ladies to tears (myself included!)

 
There was no ring bearer, so they asked two of their closes friends to hold the rings in a special vessel (see, didn’t I say that Vida loves shells?)

   

I love this shot… a stolen kiss as the officiant signs the marriage license.

To be continued…

All images by SecondPrint Productions.

Married: John & Vida – June 27, 2009 {Part 1}

I have been so antsy to feature the wedding of my dear friends, John and Vida, I’m so excited to finally have my little hands on their pictures!! I have known John for over a decade now… we met in the cornfields of Champaign (aka the University of Illinois) and have managed to remain friends throughout the years. I always thought that perhaps John would be a “bachelor for life", but after he introduced our circle of friends to Vida, I knew that that title was on its way out…

Vida has a thing for sea shells. So he popped the question July 4th weekend of 2008 by tucking a gorgeous canary yellow diamond ring into a sea shell, proposing, and then whisking her off to a weekend beach getaway… so Vida could collect more shells :)

Their wedding was one of the most intense weddings I have produced to date, with a whopping 22 different vendors! FYI, a wedding typically averages about a dozen vendors. But it was certainly the most rewarding in terms of the final outcome… happy couple, happy guests, and fabulous wedding!

All images by one of my favorite photographers, Albert of Second Print Productions. Not much need for captions in this series below… the pictures speak for themselves!

 


I am a wee bit obsessed with Vida’s bouquet, by Grace of Vale of Enna. Hydrangea, cymbidium orchids, succulents, lotus pods and fiddlehead ferns. And the perfect shape and size. Le sigh…


 


Vida looks stunning, and so happy!

 
While John looks pensive…

Their first look at Vida’s parents’ home


 

   

 

 
That’s my wedding veil that Vida borrowed, and it looks very precarious in this shot… but I love it! 




Hellooo, gorgeous!

 More of Grace’s handiwork

 
Vida wanted some whimsical balloon shots…

And they turned out so cute!

Where in the world are they? Their venue, Envent, was in a warehouse district with some large silos… urban chic!

To be continued…

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Beautiful Invitations by Junefille

Today, I asked my friend and wedding stationer extraordinaire, Franchec of Junefille, to share some of their recent work, along with some background and insight into each piece. Fran and I met in the Corporate world a while back, but quickly learned that we both led secret double lives in the wedding world :)

(Commentary below by Fran from Junefille)

We set out to find a way to combine Cynthia's youthful presence along with her mother’s traditional view on her daughter’s special event. By focusing on her favorite color, using filigre and a crystal brooch, we were able to give Cynthia an invitation that embraced the young woman she was becoming with a punch of color that kept it her personal style.

 Maria and Nathan wanted a unique twist on traditional invites. We suggested peacock feathers for a chic pop of color. The result is a vibrant look with a classic presentation.

When we first met Sara and Jonathan, they made sure to explain the importance of blending their cultures while still maintaining a modern appeal. The use of cherry blossoms symbolized Sara’s Chinese culture with a modern twist.

This image above illustrates the many ways couples can add special details to their invites with monogrammed belly bands.

The use of floral imagery was very important for this romantic themed wedding. The theme was carried out through all of wedding stationary, down to the elegance with the font treatments.

If you are looking for custom wedding invitations, don’t hesitate to contact Junefille… Their work is stunning, and they will collaborate with you to design invitations that your guests will actually want to KEEP!

Favorite Wedding-Related Reads

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Here are some of my favorite wedding-related recommendations…

The Knot Book of Wedding Lists: Offers some fantastic tips for brides-to-be’s.

Fete: The Wedding Experience: Hello, wedding porn at its finest!! Inspiring weddings and great advice by NYC planner extraordinaire, Jung Lee.

Colin Cowie Chic: Fabulous inspiration by THE Colin Cowie…

Wedding Etiquette: And we can’t forget Peggy Post. While its often said that “anything goes” for wedding these days, we can’t just throw away ALL the rules! There are still some niceties and considerations that are just considered good wedding etiquette!

Any recommendations to add?